Dr Polly James describes first steps in managing anxiety following anaphylaxis

A crisis such as an anaphylactic reaction or a significant allergic reaction is traumatic for everyone and can bring additional challenges. Parents and children can be left feeling anxious and traumatised by the allergic reaction, by the memories of it and the fear of it happening again. ln more severe cases, a parent may have seen their child nearly die. Such trauma can mean an enormous shift in many aspects of normal life involving food.

      Many people with severe allergies and their families are forced to adapt quickly to living with this chronic condition. Having a food allergy involves being well most of the time if certain restrictions are adhered to, but there is the potential to become very seriously ill.

      As you might expect, having such an intense allergic reaction may bring about feelings of panic, anxiety, and fears of death.  Consequently, an anaphylactic shock could be considered a traumatic event that may lead to trauma- and stress-related disorders (DSM 5)¹

In the first few days

It is completely normal to experience some distress after a severe reaction or anaphylaxis. For you or your child this may include difficulties in sleeping, distressing thoughts and memories popping into mind, nightmares, irritability, feelings of helplessness, reliving aspects of what has happened and thinking that you should have done more to help.

” It’s literally like being in a car accident”… You are drained, you are shaking to your core because your life was just in danger or you endangered another life” … “I felt like I was the only one that understood the severity… how sudden…how frightening it was. I was the only person to observe his reaction and struggled to share how traumatic and life-threatening it was… make them understand…with my husband and friends.  I felt like I had no control over his body”

Social support from family, friends and people that are known and trusted is very important during the first few days.  Many people find that their initial difficulties settle down and they are able to return to a more typical life within a few weeks.  Although talking about what happened can be helpful, no-one should be forced to talk about their experiences straight away.  For some people, it is important that they have some quiet time to think things through.  Trying to get back to the routine things in life can be helpful, for example having times for getting up, going to bed and eating can give a sense of normality to life.

      You should also try to regain some control. It is helpful to arrange a meeting with your child’s school to review the care plan and to make a follow-up appointment with your allergist.  It is important to attend reviews and to prepare questions in advance. Ask to go over precaution s and emergency management with adolescents in order to facilitate the transition to self-management

Moving forward and rebuilding confidence

After the first few days your child may have some questions about what happened. Children and adults do not benefit from ‘not thinking about it ‘ or’ putting it out of their minds.’ Talk to your children and social network about it. Without factual information, children (and adults!) speculate and fill in the empty spaces to make a complete story or explanation. In most cases, the child’s fears and fantasies are much more frightening and disturbing than the truth. Young children often make false assumptions about the causes of anaphylaxis. Unfortunately, these assumptions may include some sense that they were at fault for the event. Explore your child’s evolving sense of causality. Correct and clarify as you see false reasoning develop. Encourage your child to express how they feel and show understanding and acceptance.

      Listen to the child, answer questions, and provide comfort and support. Reassure them where you can (N.B you cannot reassure them that they will not have a reaction again). For example, you could say; “Things will get better”, “I will be there for you”, “you can ask me questions anytime”, “you are safe, and so are the people you care about.” To make you reassurances more believable, you can point out some of the safety measures that are being taken, like explaining what the medication does and that you are more aware of their symptoms and are better prepared.

      It is fine to tell children that you do not know why something happened or that you get confused and upset by it too. E.g. in the case where the allergen or cross contamination was unknown. In the end, listening and comforting a child without avoiding or over-reacting will have long-lasting positive effects on the child’s ability to cope with trauma. Honesty and openness will help your child develop trust.

      Focus on the good: i.e. the medication worked, lots of people helped and were kind and you learned lots. Positive interpretation of the trauma can be helpful by positively reframing the event and encouraging children to feel lucky as the event could have been worse. The good news is that children are very resilient, and they can even inspire us with their feats of strength and optimism.

Encouraging children to name their worries

Making a ‘worry box’ helps to raise awareness of different feelings and explore who and how to ask for help. Any box will do and an old shoe box and lid is ideal. Cover the box and lid with wrapping paper (so that the lid can still be removed to empty the box) and make a slot in it so that the child can post letters into it. Encourage your child to help make and decorate the box so that they feel it is their special creation. Leave it in a convenient place for your child to access it. Encourage your child to write down what they are worried about on post-it notes or small pieces of paper throughout the day and then post it into the box. Schedule in a regular time each week (or more if there are lots and lot s of worries) to sit down with your child and discuss the worries.

      Talking through what has been placed in the box on a regular basis helps your child to know that they will have a chance to talk about their worries. This will then often free them up from thinking about the worries constantly because they know they will be discussed. After discussing the worries, you can then decide if the talking has helped and it can be taken out of the box and thrown away, or if it needs to go back into the box for you to look at again later. The worry box also helps children to name what it is that’s bothering them to an adult and makes the process of sharing initial worries a lot easier for them. They also learn that adults are interested in their worries, no matter how trivial it seems to us, and they learn that it is ‘safe’ to share the worry with adults. Over time, your child may begin to learn better ways to manage his or her worries and to recognise that not all worries are overwhelming. It is useful to end your discussion with visualising a nice, safe and relaxing place that they can imagine themselves in and use all five senses to imagine what it would be like to be there. This helps to create a relaxing place to be before bedtime.

      It is always useful to provide education about anxiety too; Anxiety reactions that mimic anaphylaxis are very common so it is important to increase children’s self-awareness about their body and how it reacts to anxiety. You may wish to do this creatively by drawing around your child and then filling in their body outline with where they all feel anxiety in their body and then discuss the differences between symptoms of anxiety vs a reaction i.e. tingly lip or feeling that their throat is closing. This helps your child to differentiate allergy reactions from anxiety reactions.

Relaxation strategies

Deep breathing is a great technique for relief of stress, anxiety and panic which takes just a few minutes and can be done anywhere. You and your child will get the most benefit if you do it regularly, as part of your daily routine. You can do it standing up, sit ting in a chair that supports your back, or lying on a bed or yoga mat on the floor.

      For younger children you could encourage them to practise ‘Balloon blowing’ and imagine they are blowing up a balloon. For example you could say: “Take in a deep breath and steadily and slowly blow up your huge balloon. See the balloon getting bigger and bigger and bigger. Now close your eyes and imagine the balloon floating into the air. As you stand there, feel yourself becoming very quiet and peaceful.” Repeat this exercise two or three times every day.

      For older children controlled breathing is a quick method where you concentrate on your breathing and gain control of it. Controlled breathing is a great technique to help prevent angry outbursts and also used as a tool to help children feel calm and relaxed.

You can use this method anywhere – other people won’t even notice you’re doing it!

Below is an example of a script you may want to say to your child;

First, have a practice …

  • put one hand on your stomach and one on your chest
  • Take a deep, deep breath that fills the bottom part of your lungs and makes your stomach move outwards
  • try to get the air into this lower part of your lungs
  • Slowly draw in a deep breath while you count to 4
  • Hold your breath for the count of 5
  • Slowly breathe out while you count to 7
  • Repeat this a few times to help you take control of your body and feel calmer

Every person will find different relaxation techniques helpful. Visualisation is another great strategy; thinking about the things you find restful or pleasant can help you to relax.

  • Think about your dream place – it couId be somewhere you have been, something you have seen in a film or an imaginary place
  • Imagine a picture of it and make the picture as restful and peaceful as possible
  • Imagine what you can see… all the little details
  • Imagine how it would feel to be there… is it warm,… is there a gentle .. the sun on your skin?
  • Imagine how the floor feels beneath your feet
  • Try and imagine that you are really there in that peaceful

Some people like to think about lying on a beach or walking in the countryside.

Physical relaxation is another relaxation strategy and usually takes about 10 minutes. This technique is particularly helpful for people who appear to be constantly tense or wound up.  lt is also good to do before bed to help with sleep difficulties. All the major muscle groups in your body are tensed for about 5 seconds then release.

Below is an example of a script you could say to your child;

  • Choose somewhere warm, quiet and safe
  • Sit in a comfy chair or lie on the bed
  • Choose a time when no one-one will interrupt you
  • Tense your muscles just enough that you can feel they are tense, hold it for 5 seconds then let go
  • Once you have tensed a muscle, try not to move it again
  • Stay still and take some deep breaths for a while to help you get really relaxed

Yoga: By practicing yoga poses, children can learn how to exercise, develop confidence, and concentrate better.

Self -compassion: It is particularly important for parents and carers to engage in self- care, especially after witnessing your child experiencing a severe reaction. Think about the ways that you use self-criticism as a motivator. See if you can think of a kinder, more caring way to motivate yourself to make a change if needed. Be a good role model for your children and modelling self-compassion. For example, you could note down 3 things you are proud of everyday.

      Relaxation techniques need lots of practice to make them work well. They might not work first time. Keep practising, maybe ask a friend, family member or worker if they can help. Once you get the hang of it and find what suits you best, you’ll be ready to use the techniques when you really need them.

This article was first published in Allergy Newsletter No. 124 Winter 2018